Friday, June 8, 2007

A Tribute to my Dad

Me and my dad on the Skylift in Gatlinburg Tennessee, July 1969

I've been thinking alot about my dad the past few weeks. Even more so than usual. Maybe it's because I have a birthday this week and I realize how young he was when he died. Maybe it's because Father's Day is next week. Maybe it's because I heard the song "Mansion Over the Hilltop" recently. I just wanted to share with my blog readers, how special my dad was and how much he has influenced my life.



  • He was a tender man. He openly cried when he watched a sad show on TV. He cried standing next to the bed of a small, handicapped boy or when he saw one of his grandkids hurting.


  • He was a generous man. Was blessed with so much and willingly, anonymously shared his gifts with so many. Every other year he took his entire family on Spring break vacation. We went to Florida numerous times and even Hawaii the year I was a Sophomore. He helped many families pay for Christian education and hospital bills they couldn't pay.


  • He was a funny man. A great sense of humor and was a magnet for people. Everyone loved being around him and he made everyone laugh and feel special.


  • He was a friend to more people than I could even know. I remember standing in the line at the funeral home and hearing so many times, "he was my best friend". It seemed that people felt special if they could say they knew him.


  • He was a godly man. He was mostly private about his personal faith, but shared it with so many in ways that I don't think he even realized. Sunday was a day set apart in our home. Even in the summer when we were at the cottage, we were not to even sport our swim suits. We were to be an example to those living around us. I have always believed that he knew he was going to die when he did. He shared his feelings with one of his friends and I feel that God gave him a premonition and he was able to prepare himself. He said goodbye to us before he left for Florida that December in a way that he never did before. He was very emotional and I believe he knew he wouldn't be seeing us again.


  • He was a family man. I remember him telling me how beautiful he thought my mom was. That always meant so much to me. I always knew he loved me because he was never shy about showing it. He was always hugging and telling me he loved me. Every time we had a few days off from school in the fall, we would go on a road trip, usually to the U.P. I have many memories of those times as a family. In the summer, he would come up to the cottage after working 10-12 hours and would pull me and my friends skiing until we couldn't ski anymore.


  • He was a hard-working man. I remember bringing supper to him at his office many nights because he didn't have time to come home. He built his business on hard work and many hours and provided his family with a wonderful life. He left mom without financial worries and his hard work is still helping his entire family to this day.
My dad was not a perfect man but in my eyes he was the best. I am so proud to say he is my dad.
As father's day approaches, take the time to appreciate your dad and make sure you tell him how much you love him. I wish I could tell my dad one more time, but I'm sure he knows.



Mansion Over the Hilltop

I'm satisfied with, just a cottage below,


a little silver and a little gold.


But in that city where the ransomed will shine,


I want a gold one that's silver lined.


I've got a mansion, just over the hilltop


in that bright land where we'll never grow old.


And someday yonder we will never more wander


but walk on streets that are purest gold.




8 comments:

Amy said...

so sweet. i wish i could have experienced more of his life. i feel lucky that you had such a wonderful father because he gave me the most wonderful mother. grandma too, of course. love you-

Anonymous said...

Ok, so he wasn't "perfect", but he was close! I have so many great memories, too. I am so thankful for that. I remember him making ice cream on the cottage deck, pulling off his toe nails (swearing under his breath), squeezing our hands together with one of his telling us to say "please Gramps, let me go", mowing the grass twice in one day because he couldn't sit still....he was wonderful. Sure do miss him. Thanks for the tear-jerking tribute.

Katie said...

i wish i knew him better as well...

i definitely remember homemade ice cream at the cottage and trips to the candy store on the golf cart, birthdays at village inn and whenever we would visit him at godwin he would give us one of his business cards because we loved the way they looked like they were swirling when we turned them back & forth.

Anonymous said...

Denise - what a beautiful tribute to Dad. Gave me a good cry, which won't surprise you. Maybe I'll do a post next week with some of my own memories, but for now I'll just say that I am blessed to have had him for a dad and that 59 years wasn't nearly long enough! I love you.
p.s. The picture you posted was taken right after our wedding - think you left the next morning. I never made it to Gatlinburg until two years ago!

Marva's "Marvalous" Memories said...

Okay, I can't see through the tears to write! That was awesome and so true. One more memory that I have and I think of it almost every Sunday afternoon, is how dad would work 6 days a week, 12-14 hours a day (or more!) and then on Sunday afternoons we would beg to go for a ride to Burnips and he's say "can I just rest for 10 minutes and then we'll go." I love my Sunday afternoon naps and the poor guy never got a real one. I often think about the goodbye that December too - it was different. His last words to me were "I love you baby". I just read Joan's comment and I might have to follow suit and do that too. Love you Den! Marv

Suzanne said...

...Thank you for putting up this beautiful tribute.. I wish I had been able to meet Red. Mike talks about him often and I feel like I know him through his stories, he loved him so much. I love the lift picture, now I know where Mike gets the goofy black socks w/shorts thing from!!! I sent the link to your blogspot to Mike. (who is in TX.. working hard LOL)
...Yeah, I lurk about these pages, and Marva I've especially been following your happenin's with Laiya.. sorry for not posting... I'm so happy for you!

Anonymous said...

Denise,
I wish I would have gotten to know him too. One year wasn't enough plus living in another state. My kids also missed getting to know their grandpa. That is sad.
I know that he was a great man!
Beckie

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